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Porn to be Wild: Making Porn a tool for Sex Education

I hear that the government wishes to ban porn. It seems almost like an easy way out, when there is perfectly suitable option right here. How about actually making porn better for kids, and adults who don’t know fucking anything (pun intended).

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When I was in school, there was an excruciatingly painful event around the time we were about to appear for our Xth Grade. This was a 2 hour program on sex education. For some reason, this was coupled with ‘how to detect if you have tuberculosis’. Anyway, this was done in as much prudish way as one could expect from the temple priests. Girls were taken in another class, and I presume they were taught about periods. Honestly, why does everybody think boys do not have a fricking idea about what period is. By the time we passed out school, we probably knew much more than many of our male teachers. It’s not because we were obsessed with female form ( although we were), it’s because we had genuine curiosity about the topic. Think about it from a young boy’s perspective, the idea that something exclusive is happening to the girl every month, and that there are so many ads about it is the perfect catalyst to peak curiosity. So we pulled in our forces and learned everything we could, from all possible sources. Our education about sex also went through the same kind of effort. We basically got certain ‘urges’, and found out that reading certain materials makes these urges, even more pleasant. This was in late nineties, and visual porn hadn’t quite exploded on the internet still. However there were a lot of books available about encounters of the other kind. I am not ashamed to admit that we learned a lot through these books, and they were quite tastefully done. Then, a few years later we graduated to watching visual porn, which was shocking, and exciting, and it changed my world view. However, over the years, porn has lost a lot of value, and now it’s the ugliest thing you can look at. So how do you go about making porn great, and dare I say it ‘kid friendly’?

Child Porn, Rape, Violence (BDSM), Bestiality, Shit Eating Stuff Needs to Just Go
Normally, I do not sponsor outright banning of anything, but these few things are actually everything wrong with porn today. Like all good films, a porn film should make you use your imagination a bit, and steer you to the higher path. Let’s be frank, no matter what we do, kids will watch porn, so we need to ensure that they don’t come across these things in their formative years. Especially in India, where we will never have an open conversation about sex, porn is a great tool that kids will learn from. It’s important that they learn to do it right.

No, Women are Not that Easy or Timid
I have lost count on how many porn films show women as just waiting to explode bomb of lust, that all it takes is a little push from you. There has never been a porn film that depicts realistic expectations about sex. How about showing a film about a guy and girl, where they know each other for some time, and then it just happens naturally like it does? Most porn films depict women as either slave to male charisma, or extremely high on the sex drive and thus easy. Both depictions are nowhere close to reality. Lust and sexual drive in women is a very real thing, but so is their sense of choice and priorities. By catering to either side, we make porn too much of a fantasy, and if teenagers start expecting this from each other, then we are creating a sexually challenged generation. Before you argue that people know right from wrong and never follow what they see, please do research on how many young boys actually believe that your penis defines your manliness. That brings me to last point.

Men are not Sex Machines and they wear condoms
In the real world, men do other things, have other ambitions except banging anything they see. I am not saying that we don’t think about it, of course we do, but we don’t act on it, because well, common sense. You cannot have sex all the time, because then it wouldn’t even be fun. It’s okay not to always be so macho, masculinity needs to evolve into something that is more than your penis. With so much of porn where women go “It’s so big”, as if to imply that it’s all that is needed, it’s easy to misunderstand one’s manhood with what’s under the hood. Of course it’s nice to be well endowed, but real sex is not just about friction, it’s about passion, and it’s sorely lacking in porn today. Also, how about some very basic things, like wearing a condom. Why can’t we make it compulsory to have it in all porn films, it then will become a ritual, and will gain more support.

In passing my advise to young teenaged boys who are indulging in a lot of porn would be to ensure that they know most of it isn’t real, and that they have been given hands for a reason. That came out wrong. I meant that hands are most beautiful limbs, and a lot of sex has to do with embracing, touching, holding each other. So always try to make sure that you are more than a penis for your partner, in all ways possible.

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